This is a Sunday school lesson I taught, on sexual purity. I’m posting it for a friend.

Bible text for this lesson:

Proverbs 5:3,4 “For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, And her mouth is smoother than oil; But in the end she is bitter as wormwood, Sharp as a two-edged sword.”

This verse speaks of the pleasures of immorality, and warns of the truth behind the pleasure.

Proverbs 6:25 “Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, Nor let her allure you with her eyelids.”

Warns you to practice self-control.

Proverbs 5:21,22 “For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, And He ponders all his paths. His own iniquities entrap the wicked man, And he is caught in the cords of his sin.”

We can hide our sin from man, but we can hide nothing from God.

Proverbs 6:27-29 “Can a man take fire to his bosom, And his clothes not be burned? Can one walk on hot coals, And his feet not be seared? So is he who goes in to his neighbor’s wife; Whoever touches her shall not be innocent.”

Sin always has consequences.

Proverbs 6:32-35 “Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding; He who does so destroys his own soul. Wounds and dishonor he will get, And his reproach will not be wiped away. For jealousy is a husband’s fury; Therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance. He will accept no recompense, Nor will he be appeased though you give many gifts.”

Sexual sin is a sin against one’s self, and the jealousy of a wronged partner is difficult to overcome.

Solomon encourages marital fidelity and warns against sexual immorality. Face it, sin, immorality included, is fun. There wouldn’t be any point otherwise, but that fun is, all too often, short lived. And the consequences can be devastating. Guilt and STDs have destroyed marriages, and no sin devastates Christian lives, homes, and churches more often than infidelity.

All across America people have bought into the idea that whatever they want to do with their bodies is no one’s business but their own. They’ve cast aside moral standards, considering them to be out of date.

How do you practice sexual purity in a world of relaxed moral standards, easy access pornography, the current standard of immodest dress, and movies, television, and magazines that make immorality seem not only normal but desirable? We use the tools God gave us, self-control, true love, decisions made in advance, prayer in times of temptation, accountability, and strong marriages.

The Bible provides more instruction about the relationships between men and women than any other subject. It shows sexuality as God’s gift for human pleasure. Sex is not a sin! God created and equipped the human body for pleasure in the context of marriage and procreation, and the drive is strong because the human race depends on it. The only time sex becomes a sin is outside of marriage.

Our Bible text gives it’s warning concerning sexual sin from a male perspective, but the warnings are just as valid for a female. The consequences of casual sex are devastating to both parties. The tragic irony is that in the name of love people do things that hurt those they profess to love. Love and Lust are not the same.

Anyone male or female can be enticed by lust, and anyone male or female can arouse lust in the opposite sex. The Bible is warning you not to allow yourself to lust for someone else or allow yourself to be the object of someone else’s lust.

I know, easier said than done. Right? How about some practical advice?

Men, learn to bounce your eyes. Pretty girls, showing a lot of skin, are going to be out there. Don’t put yourselves in a bad position. Look away. It gets easier every time you do.

If you’re having a problem with porn, get help. Get an accountability partner. You’re probably not going to be able to kick it on your own.

Work on your marriage. You married her for some reason. Rediscover it!

Women, stop comparing your husband to other men. It’s not fair! You are seeing them with their “company manners” on. I bet they belch at the table too. And if you’re reading what my dad use to call bodice rippers, stop! That’s the worst comparison of all.

As for that guy at work, who seems to understand you so well, he only sees your “company manners”. Your husband might enjoy seeing them, as well.

Kids, we’ve gone over some tough stuff, but there are times when things happen to us, over which we have no control. If someone has forced themselves on you, or an adult has taken advantage of you, it is not your fault! Your heart, body, and soul are still pure before the LORD.

That said young men, what kind of wife do you want? Do you want a wife who has been with five men before you, or who waited for you? Do you want a wife who has kissed 25 guys before you, or who has kissed only you? Don’t hold your future wife to a higher standard than you’re willing to hold yourself to.

Do you love her? Love her enough to wait. If she really loves you, she’ll be willing to wait too. Decide now what kind of man you want to be.

Young ladies, decide now what your answer will be. Don’t wait until you’re in a situation, because if you do the situation will decide for you.

Have you ever been somewhere where they sell jewelry? The rhinestones are always on top of the counter where anyone can try them on for size, and the diamonds are always protected in a locked glass cabinet, so only those serious about buying them get to touch them. Next time you’re there take a look at the differences between the two. The rhinestones tend to get kind of dull and smudgy and dirty from all the handling, while the diamonds stay bright and sparkly and clean. Ladies, you are diamonds! Treat yourselves accordingly.

If he really loves you, he will wait, and he won’t ask you to do anything you couldn’t tell your mom and dad about.

Everyone, remember that the pleasures of sexual sin simply are not worth the possible consequences, and there are always consequences of some kind.

At the end of this lesson I encouraged questions of any kind. I happily do the same here.