He’s sixteen, and he’s never had a real family. The last time he saw his mother, he was ten, and she told him she had given up her parental rights. At twelve he and his older brother were adopted, but after only a few weeks they returned him to CPS and kept his brother. His brother still visits him, but his one wish is for a family of his own.
He’s a big kid, built like a linebacker, but he’s softhearted and caring. He’d like to play football, but hasn’t been in one foster home long enough. He would also like to have a home with a big dog, maybe a Lab or a Husky.
Guess what we have.
After hearing his story, all my husband and I could do was look at each other and cry. All this sweet, articulate, almost grown boy needs is parents to love him when he fails and cheer for him when he succeeds.
We’re going the 26th to find out what we have to do to adopt him. It’s time he had a real family.
Please keep us and our son in your thoughts and prayers.

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January 10, 2008 at 1:38 pm
Romana
A very touching blog.Its really sad for a grown up to face these issues.No one could ever care like a mother.Hope you would make him feel comfortable and he never feels the loss of his parents.I feel its a noble thought to adopt a kid who needs love and care.I was just browsing and found a wonderful site which says get connected with your family,i felt its apt to mention here as i feel you can make that kid feel one among your family,by adding his profile in your family tree and upload his videos on this site.I too uploaded few videos of my family.I know how it feels to be affiliated with a family,and a sense of security in the society. You can try this link http://www.onefamily.com/Home/Index/rglx/myfamily_aboutitb
January 10, 2008 at 2:49 pm
Vicky In The Middle
I absolutely will keep you all in my prayers. What a great thing you’re doing, opening your home to this boy. It’s weird, at lunch today I heard a story like this from another friend. They are going to adopt a 16 year old girl who’s been abandoned by her family when they divorced. Now she’ll have a real home, too.
January 10, 2008 at 8:26 pm
thelittlefluffycat
Friends of ours do the same thing–have several times! This is wonderful, wonderful news. I know what it means to find a child of yours born to someone else, and recognize them and love them–it’s a blessing and a joy, even when there’s heartache involved. We will surely keep you in our thoughts and prayers!
January 10, 2008 at 8:47 pm
truddle
A son of your heart – how so very beautiful! Shawn you and this sweet boy are in my thoughts and prayers!
January 10, 2008 at 9:34 pm
Ina
This is so wonderful, Shawn! I took in a fifteen year old girl at one point in my life. These children of dysfunction are so needy of us. Blessings to all of you!
January 10, 2008 at 11:59 pm
pandemonic
How sweet! You’re such a good person.
January 11, 2008 at 1:38 am
heathenly
I’ll cross my fingers that you’ll soon be the (legal) parents of a bouncing… teenage boy!
January 11, 2008 at 10:43 am
Shawn W
Romana, I don’t know that we’ll be able to make him not feel his loss, but we do plan to let him know we’re in it for the long haul. Once he’s a member of the family he’s stuck with the whole crazy lot of us.
Thank you, Vicky. Your friends are doing a great thing. I wish their family all the best.
Your prayers are appreciated, littlefluffycat. It’s nice to know so many others have done the same thing. It’s reasuring to know we’re not nuts.
Thank you, truddle. A son of my heart, I love that!
What a sweet thing to do, Ina! You’re right he needs us, and though we didn’t know it, we need him too.
Pandemonic, if anyone had told us we’d be doing this a month ago we’d have laughed ourselves sick.
Thank you, Heathenly! If everything works out right, it might be Mom doing the bouncing.
January 11, 2008 at 11:52 am
davidrochester
That is one of the luckiest children in the world. I hope he gets to have you, and vice versa.
January 11, 2008 at 11:53 am
davidrochester
(I meant, of course, that he will be one of the luckiest children, if it works out; not that he’s lucky to have had such a hard life up until now.)
January 11, 2008 at 12:21 pm
Shawn W
Thank you, David!
(I knew what you meant, Dear Man.)
January 12, 2008 at 3:34 am
TheOtherIvy
That’s what this is all about, isn’t it?
I will be sending good thoughts (I am right now).
January 12, 2008 at 9:38 am
Shawn W
It really is, Ivy.
Thanks.
January 13, 2008 at 12:31 am
Corina
How wonderful for all of you, Shawn! I think he has found the perfect family! I hope it all works out for you and him!
January 13, 2008 at 9:09 am
Shawn W
Thanks, Corina. Me too.
January 13, 2008 at 9:19 am
thirdculturemom
This is such a great thing to do, Shawn. I hope they don’t make the adoption process too complicated–this boy needs a family now. Good luck, and my best wishes!
January 13, 2008 at 10:02 am
Shawn W
Thanks, thirdculturemom. I’m sure they have to make sure we can take care of him, but it won’t be a complicated as adopting a baby would be. At his age he will be able to give his opinion too.
January 15, 2008 at 8:52 am
bibliomom
How wonderful for you all!!!
January 15, 2008 at 10:55 am
Shawn W
Thanks, Bibliomom!
January 17, 2008 at 10:18 am
tigereye
Oh, wow. What a beautiful thing, for both of you.
Like a lot of folks here have said at other times and in other places, I believe we create our own families as much as we belong to the ones with whom we share blood. You’re making a created family a true and even holy reality. There’s no act of love that’s more profound than this.
I wish you, and him, the best, and of course you’ll be in my prayers.