I love the first week of a new year. It’s time to take stock and look at life, to see what’s working, what needs work, and what needs tossed out.
The first step is what I like to think of as Spring-cleaning of the heart and mind.
1. Am I beating any dead horses?
We all know folks who just can’t stop being angry and talking about something that has been a dead issue for ages. They’re irritating and I don’t want to be one of them. Sometimes it helps to ask my spouse this one. It seems if I’m doing something irritating he’s the first to know.
2. Do I see any greenish tints when looking in the mirror?
Envy and jealousy have no place in a life well lived. I have my own talents and blessings. Wanting someone else’s is just greedy.
3. Is my nose at nose level?
Comparing myself to someone else is always a losing proposition. It can lead to a, nose in the air, thinking I’m better than someone else, holier-than-thou attitude, that’s apt to get one’s nose dented. It can also lead to, head hanging, “woe is me, I’m so pitiful” thinking, and we all know how attractive that is.
4. How’s the old pulse?
In these times of war coverage, suicide bombings, kidnappings,… it’s easy to suffer from calcification of the heart. I want my heart to stay tender. Though it may be broken occasionally, the rewards far out weigh the cost.
5. Is it time to forgive?
It’s tough to forgive someone who isn’t sorry, but unforgiveness is destructive to the heart that harbor’s it. I forgive for my own sake, and in obedience to the One who forgave me.
6. Is anything going bump in the night?
Things that thrive in the dark tend to die when dragged into the light. Honesty and open communication are the kryptonite of guilty secrets.
Tomorrow: Time To De-Clutter.

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January 3, 2008 at 4:16 am
Ina
These are absolutely beautiful thoughts and sentiments, Shawn. Thank you for sharing them with us. We can all use guidelines like these. You have such a beautiful soul.
January 3, 2008 at 6:39 am
Shawn W
Ina, you can’t leave a comment like that, and claim not to be a sweetheart. Thank you. One nice thing about having a beautiful soul is that it attracts others, like your own.
January 3, 2008 at 6:39 am
Wanda Rizzuto
Ina’s right. Can’t wait to read tomorrow’s post.
January 3, 2008 at 7:34 am
Ina
Okay, I take it back. This article sucked. You suck. Wanda sucks. I suck.
There. I’m not a sweetheart. What’s wrong with you people? Recognize me for being the bitch that I am.
(I hope I didn’t hurt your feelings!)
January 3, 2008 at 11:08 am
Shawn W
Thanks, Wanda! I’m glad you’re enjoying them.
Ina,
!
January 3, 2008 at 10:16 pm
davidrochester
These are great ways to think about the new year. I laughed aloud at this: It seems if I’m doing something irritating he’s the first to know.
Yep, that’s what spouses are good for, all right.
January 4, 2008 at 9:17 am
Shawn W
Glad you enjoyed that one, David.
January 4, 2008 at 11:55 pm
Eva Wallace
Just found your blog this morning. I’ll be visiting every morning for my dose of wisdom and inspiration. Your posts are thoughtful, simple and to the point – thanks for blogging!
January 5, 2008 at 6:59 am
Shawn W
Glad to have you, Eva! Also glad you’re enjoying my little blog.
January 7, 2008 at 8:17 pm
TheOtherIvy
These are great questions to consider. Spouses can be very helpful in affirming what habits need to go; I know mine is. When I have asked him, have I been doing this for a while, I am greeted with a relieved confirmation. That in itself is a motivator to move on, his ability to wait until I recognize it on my own.
January 8, 2008 at 9:42 am
Shawn W
Thanks, Ivy!
Mine has learned it’s safer to let me recognize it on my own.
January 9, 2008 at 1:54 am
TheOtherIvy
Mine’s wise like that, too. He lets me know if I ask him directly.