This was originally posted someplace else, but has been updated.
I meet her when she was 14, and she was already a remarkable young woman. Her mother was in prison, and her dad was a drunk, which left her to raise her then two-year-old sister. At the age of 15 she decided they had to move away from their dad, to protect her sister. They stayed where they could, for as long as they could, while she managed to work and stay in school.
She was in my Sunday school class, and though several people in our church looked down on her for the way she had to live, (She had to lie about her age and drive without a license, in order to work.) she was always the one who asked the best questions and seemed to actually listen to the lessons.
She got married at 17 to a young man, who was 16. I went to the wedding, smiled, and hugged her, and told her how happy I was for her. Then went home and cried, for what I thought was a waste of her future. I was wrong.
Together they were more remarkable than either had been alone. She home-schooled herself and her husband, and they both graduated. They continued to raise her sister, and took in one of her cousins, as well as having two children of their own. He managed to get a good job, so that she was able to stay home with the children. They were active in church, and all was right with their world.
A few months ago, shortly before his twentieth birthday, he lost control of his car, in the rain, and spun out in front of a tanker. He was killed instantly.
There were at least 500 people at his funeral, and though she looked pale and tired, it seemed she hugged and offered a word of encouragement to each one.
I saw her this past weekend, with all four kids in tow. The little ones look great, and she looks tired but at peace. She talks about him and how much they miss him, but she also talks about what the future holds for them.
If she is representative of the next generation’s strength, courage, and faith the world is going to be in good hands.

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October 24, 2007 at 4:52 pm
Scout
Shawn, we need more young people like the two of them. If only we could spread their wisdom, faith and determination! The world needs more like them now, and in the future. Perhaps by example, others like your young friend can spread these valuable qualities to others. I can only hope.
October 24, 2007 at 11:25 pm
Shawn W
Scout, I have been humbled by some of the incredible young people I get to work with. They are out there, and wise beyond their years. It’s our job to feed and support their faith and determination.
October 25, 2007 at 4:24 am
Wanda Rizzuto
Kinda puts things in perspective, doesn’t it?
October 25, 2007 at 8:40 am
Shawn W
Yeah, it does, and makes a person a bit ashamed of the things they whine about.
October 25, 2007 at 12:36 pm
davidrochester
I wonder why some people have such an incredible capacity to endure, to overcome, and to live lovingly despite everything — and others don’t? It’s a mystery to me. This young woman is clearly a remarkable person. Her siblings and children are fortunate.
October 26, 2007 at 5:13 am
TJ Thompson
This situation is very sad, it seems. All anyone can really do in a situation like this is pray, and act on the response.
October 26, 2007 at 7:53 am
Shawn W
David, she and people like her are the reason I have very little patience with people who bame their upbring for all of their problems in life. I understand there are traumatic events in one’s life, which effect them forever, but someone blaming their mom and dad for their refusal to get off their lazy behind or obey the law sets my teeth on edge.
She is remarkable, and I consider myself blessed to be her friend.
TJ, it is very sad, but there is also great hope to be found.
October 27, 2007 at 8:22 pm
pandemonic
What an uplifting story.
October 28, 2007 at 7:48 am
Shawn W
Thanks for stopping by, Pandemonic. I think she’s proof there is hope for our sorry world.
October 28, 2007 at 7:55 am
nanis
Shawn, I remember this story form the other place, but forgot who had written it. Thank you for reminding me.
Some people just seem to have a gift, don’t they?
October 28, 2007 at 8:07 am
Shawn W
Hi Nanis!
They really do.